I can only describe what I just went through as a three-day binge. I’m not sure what, if anything, triggered it. I just found myself eating outside my parameters, then suddenly decided that if I was going to blow it I would blow it big. I went on sort of a “farewell to favorites” tour and ate just about everything on my “thou shalt not” list over the days before my birthday and finished it off — but good — with way too much ice cream and cake for any one person.
I remember going to my first OA meeting in 2010, and making a decision to become abstinent during that 7pm group session. When I came out, I was abstinent one hour, and I was afraid to let it slip away, so I built on it for nine years, until a one-night stressed-out binge ruined my streak, I quickly picked up my abstinence and diligently started over, but this time without the determination to lose the weight that made those first years so rewarding. This time, I didn’t have friends and family saying, “I don’t know what you’re doing, but you’re amazing!” This time I only had my selfish, or evil self-destructive thoughts echoing, “You never really got to say goodbye to nachos,” and, “a whole bag of donuts couldn’t possibly stay on your waist if you only binged for a day (then two days, then three).” So I reminded myself what a 1,000-calorie cheeseburger tastes like, and polished off a whole carton of ice cream, then another. I bought sweetened breakfast cereal and ate the whole box at a sitting. I went out for donuts and did Waffle House on the way. At home I searched the house for binge-worthy items but settled for whatever health-food I could find and demolished it in mass quantities. I was insane.
I went to a dinner party, where I ate like a civilized normal person, then drove to the grocery store and supplied an all-night binge like a death-row inmate having a last meal, promising myself I would die to self at midnight and resume abstinent eating tomorrow. Day One. Again.
So today is resurrection day. I’m dying to self one more time. In a few moments I’ll go start my abstinent breakfast, free of the shame and self-loathing I’ve applied to myself for the past three days. I’ll thank God for my provision, and ask Him to make it enough. I’ll try to remember that He loaned me this body and wants me to take care of it. I’ll fuel it properly, and try to use it wisely. I’ll seek God’s will for me and ask Him to help me carry it out. I’ll lay my toxic desires on the altar of sacrifice and allow God to shape me into my best self.
Then I’ll share this with you, because if my suffering can help someone else, then it wasn’t in vain. I’m imperfect. I’m a compulsive overeater, and no amount of recovery or duration of abstinence will change what I am and can be again when I let my spiritual condition slip. Every time I put what I want in the driver’s seat, I will turn to food. …Maybe because I won’t allow myself to get drunk, high, laid, or whatever else there is, but food will always be a stumbling block for me. So I will rely on the One who can help me tiptoe around it, the One who provides, the One who rescues, redeems, and recreates, the One who patiently waits for me to discover what a mess I’m in and then gently recovers me. I put myself in God’s hand, and there I am recovered.
“LORD, you alone are my portion and my cup; you make my lot secure.” (Psalm 16:5, NIV)